A Woman's Guide to Writing an Outstanding Profile

The most important details are to be honest with yourself, examine previous relationships, highlight the characteristics that distinguish you, describe important aspects of your life, hire a professional photographer to take your first online photo, and read what you've written about yourself. These details will help you attract men who share your values.

OK, now is the time. You've signed up for at least one online dating service. Now you must write that all-important profile... the one that will catch the attention of the man of your dreams... But where to begin? Maybe you don't even think you're very good at writing. Nonetheless, you are capable of completing this task.

The first step is to be completely honest with yourself. You're looking for a man who will like...and maybe someday love...YOU....THE REAL YOU! Examine previous relationships and make a list of what you liked and disliked about them. If he smoked in the house and you didn't like it the first time, you won't like it any better the second time. Say you are an animal lover who prefers indoor pets if you adore cats and will always want to own one or more. Someone who despises cats or is allergic to them is not the right person for you.

Highlight the characteristics that distinguish you. If you play the piano well, you want Mr. Right to notice it. A couch potato is not a good match for someone who runs marathons. You don't want a man who thinks Picasso is an ice cream flavor if you love art.

Describe the important aspects of your life. If volunteering is the only thing that makes you feel useful and worthwhile, you want someone who will support you, if not join you, in your volunteer projects. When you look beyond the surface, you will attract men who share your values.

Hire a professional photographer to take your first online photo as an investment in your online profile. This is critical. The image is the first thing men notice. The second thing they do is read what you've written about yourself. Some online dating sites will even provide you with a list of local photographers who specialize in online dating site photos.

The "Don'ts" of Online Dating for Women

The most important details in this text are the "Don'ts" of online dating for women. These include not writing your life story while chatting online or by email, not lying about age, marital status, employment, height, weight, and other factors in their online profiles, not being too eager, and not insisting on a face-to-face meeting. Finally, don't email or IM them too frequently, and play it safe and cool.

There are some things that women should never do while in an online relationship with a man. These things are certain to put an end to any further communications with him.

Do not write your life story while chatting online or by email. His eyes will blur and he will fall out of his chair. Keep it brief until he requests more information... Then give them slowly and only answer the questions he asks. For example, if he asks how many siblings you have, he is NOT inquiring about your interactions with them. He really just wants to know how many you have. Say you have two (or whatever is true), and then ask how many he has. You should ask one of him a question for every one he asks you. Nothing turns a man off like a long-winded woman who doesn't know when to shut up or how to listen.

Never, ever, ever lie. I truly believe that lying will catch up with you sooner or later. Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight, and a variety of other factors in their online profiles. That is a huge mistake. If you find a man you are truly interested in, he will discover you lied, and the relationship will be doomed. So, just be honest. Someone will like you...even come to love you...for exactly who you are.

Don't be too eager. It makes you appear desperate, which turns off men. They are first and foremost conquerors, and if getting the person of their desires to like them is too easy, they will quickly lose interest. I don't mean to be a "hard-to-get" player. I mean, don't insist on a face-to-face meeting. Don't email or IM them too frequently. Play it safe and cool.

Online Dating "Don'ts" for Women

Online Dating "Don'ts" for Women include not writing your life story while chatting online or via email, not lying about age, marital status, employment, height, weight, and other factors, not getting too excited, not playing the "hard-to-get" game, not insisting on a face-to-face meeting, and playing it safe while remaining cool.

Some things should never be done by a woman while in an online relationship with a man. These events are certain to put an end to any further communications with him.

Do not write your life story while chatting online or via email. His vision will blur and he will fall out of his chair. Keep it brief until he asks for more information... Then slowly provide them while only answering the questions he poses. 

For example, if he asks how many siblings you have, he is NOT enquiring about your interactions with them. He's only interested in how many you have. Say you have two (or whatever number is correct), and then ask how many he has. You should ask one of him for every question he asks you. Nothing turns a man off more than a long-winded woman who doesn't know when to stop talking or when to listen.

Never, ever, ever, ever lie. I truly believe that lies will eventually catch up with you. In their online profiles, many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight, and a variety of other factors. That is a huge error. If you find a man you are truly interested in, he will discover you lied, and any chance of the relationship progressing will be lost. So, just be truthful. Someone out there will like you...even come to love you...for exactly who you are.

Don't get too excited. It makes you appear desperate, which turns men off. They are conquerors first and foremost, and if getting the person of their desires to like them is too easy, they will quickly lose interest. I don't mean to play the "hard-to-get" game. Don't insist on a face-to-face meeting. Don't send them too many emails or instant messages. Play it safe while remaining cool.

Online Dating Mistakes to Avoid

Online Dating Errors to Avoid: Being aggressive, demanding perfection, and telling white lies. From a woman's perspective, there is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being overly aggressive, overconfident, or just plain sleazy or slimy. Be truthful from the start of a relationship, make your profile interesting, and avoid making false claims. Expect flaws and accept them. Patience is essential. Don't be too aggressive, expect perfection, or put on a false front.

You can do a lot of things right while searching the internet for that special lady...the one of your dreams...your soul-mate...the other half of yourself. Unfortunately, you can also do a lot of things wrong...things that will ensure failure and a broken heart. Being aggressive, demanding perfection, and even telling white lies are all ingredients for success in the "real" world. However, those same characteristics are deadly when it comes to online and offline dating.

From a woman's perspective, there is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being overly aggressive, overconfident, or just plain sleazy or slimy. If you push too hard for a face-to-face, you will come across as overly aggressive...even frightening. Remember that you are not trying to close a business deal, but rather to keep the relationship moving at a slow but steady pace. Patience is essential.

Nobody is flawless. We are all flawed in some way...and you are no exception. If you expect and demand perfection from a woman, you will always be disappointed. It's one thing to demand perfection in your work. Demanding perfection from a friend, coworker, or a lady you like is not acceptable. It's not going to happen. Expect flaws and simply accept them. Determine which you can live with and which you cannot.

White lies and false fronts will not work. Be truthful from the start of a relationship. Make your profile. Make it interesting, but avoid making false claims. The truth will eventually come out. If you claim to be a millionaire lawyer when in reality you are a $75,000 electrician, you have set yourself up for failure.

Remember not to be too aggressive, to expect perfection, or to put on a false front.

Flirting Online A New Art Form

Flirting online is a new art form that requires confidence without being overbearing. To be successful, it is important to have a good time, be lighthearted, humorous, and entertaining, have a positive attitude, compliment her, listen to what she says, encourage her to open up and tell you about herself, not be impolite, and not go too fast. The first step toward a successful relationship is flirting.

Many of the same things that work for "brick and mortar" flirting also work for online flirting, and all relationships begin with successful flirting. Flirting is an art that requires confidence without being overbearing. She will call you "slimy" if you go too far. She will label you as "wimpy" if you do not go far enough. So, how do you strike a balance between slimy and wimpy without using eye contact or body language online? You only have a computer, an internet connection, and a membership in an online dating site, correct?

1. Have a good time! Be lighthearted, humorous, and entertaining. Make her want to speak with you again. Flirting is a game.

2. Exude confidence. Successful flirts have a positive attitude toward life. You must convey the "feel good" factor. A positive attitude attracts females in the same way that honey attracts flies.

3. 3. Compliment her...frequently and sincerely. Nothing works as well as making her feel good about herself. She will want to spend more time with you, so say "thank you" when she compliments you. Do not be self-critical.

4. Listen…listen….listen. Pay close attention to what she says and ask pertinent questions. Encourage her to open up and tell you about herself. Make her feel interesting and as if you are interested in her. It works like a charm!

5. Do not be impolite. Flirting does not imply being sexually explicit or taking offense if the lady does not respond. Take the hint and move on to the next prospect if she isn't interested. If you get a lot of rejections, you should probably try something else.

6. Following your chat, send an email. This is as important as sending a thank you note for a gift and is essential to successful flirting.

Try not to go too fast. The first step toward a successful relationship is flirting.

Men's Online Dating Security

Men should be aware of online dating safety, as perverts, sexual predators, and weirdos come in all sexes, sizes, and ages. They should not be given personal information, and should keep their real names, addresses, phone numbers, and places of employment private. They should also be wary of women who appear to be in financial need, and if they ask for money in any of a dozen different ways, end the relationship immediately. Other warning signs include a desire to marry and feelings of insecurity. If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you aren't ready to make, it might be time to leave.

Almost everything you read about online dating safety is geared toward women, but men should also be concerned. Perverts, sexual predators, and weirdos come in all sexes, sizes, and ages...as do liars and cheaters. Men, too, must remain vigilant.

It is common knowledge that strangers should not be given personal information. The reason is as numerous as the number of strangers who want that information. Don't give out personal information if you come across someone who is asking others to do the same. You have no idea what they intend to do with it....and you can bet they intend to do something with it. That "something" will not benefit you. Men must also keep their real names, addresses, phone numbers, and places of employment private. Do not give that information to anyone online unless you are certain they are who they claim to be.

Men, be wary of women who appear to be in financial need. If they ask for money in any of a dozen different ways, end the relationship immediately. They are not looking for love or even friendship; they are seeking financial assistance.

Be wary if a woman gives you her phone number but you can never reach her at that number. If you have to page or text them and then wait for them to call you back, this could be a sign that what they are telling you is not entirely true.

Other warning signs include a desire to marry and feelings of insecurity. If the woman is pushing you too hard for a commitment you aren't ready to make, it might be time to leave.

Online Dating Isn't a Game

Women want a confident man, but not a haughty jerk. The "strong silent type" is not at all appealing. They want you to be interesting enough for them to want to learn more about you.

Online dating is not a competition between competing males for a female's attention. Grow a pair. Change your mind set from "winning" to "searching". It's not high school. You've been all grown up for quite some time now. Your attitude is your most valuable asset. You should like yourself and not focus on everything that isn't YOUR idea of the perfect guy...the one that all women want.

What do these women want, you might ask? That is an age-old question. As a woman, I can tell you what women want and what they don't want.

Women want a confident man...

NOT a haughty jerk. There is a significant difference. You must like yourself and not be self-deprecating, but you must not appear to believe that you are a gift from God and have just fallen from the sky. They also don't want you to believe that THEY have fallen from heaven and are some kind of perfect being. They are unable to meet that standard.

Women prefer communicators. The "strong silent type" is not at all appealing. They believe you don't have an original thought in your head and haven't heard a word they said, or that you simply don't care what they said or didn't hear what they said. They want you to be interesting enough for them to want to learn more about you, and they want you to think they're interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what's important to them.

Women do not want to be considered a prize to be won. They don't want to be a showpiece. They want to be the ONE woman you want to spend your time with.

Single Men Dating Online

Online dating can help you get back into the dating scene. There are thousands of women waiting to meet you and enjoy your company. One dinner and movie date costs less than a month. Every day, new people join online dating services, and at least half are women.

Regardless of your age, height, weight, or physical appearance, there are thousands of women waiting to meet you and enjoy your company...

whether you want short-term or long-term relationships. If you've found yourself suddenly "on the market" again after a relationship has ended, or if you're simply too busy with work to spend a lot of time looking for a lady to keep you company, online dating can help you get back into the dating scene.

The good news is that all you need to get started is a computer and an internet connection. The first step is to find an online dating site that meets your requirements. There are large sites that provide many extras such as live video chat and even match you up with ladies based on your profiles, as well as many sites that cater to specific interests such as religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, and so on. You must select one or two that will meet your requirements. I do not recommend free websites. If you are not satisfied with the paid sites, you can get your money back, and the investment is small. One dinner and movie date costs less than a month.

The next step is to create a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering photo of yourself. You're all set now. Begin contacting ladies whose profiles interest you and respond to any lady who contacts you... and do so promptly...but not on holidays or weekends. You don't want to come across as desperate. Don't give up after a month, thinking you'll never find the right lady. Every day, new people join online dating services, and at least half of them are women, many of whom will want to meet you.

Online Dating Can Be Difficult

 Online Dating Can Be Difficult

Ladies of all ages value confidence and interest far more than appearance. Remember that being confident and interesting does not imply being cocky or self-centered. It's critical that your profile shows that you have friends you care about and that you are passionate about a variety of things.

Here's a little secret that those of the female gender keep from us: Women, even the most beautiful, enjoy being approached by a confident and interesting man. Are you taken aback? It's true... Ladies of all ages value confidence and interest far more than appearance. That is true for both internet dating and traditional dating, but we're talking about internet dating here... So, back to the topic at hand.

When you join an online dating service, you will notice that there are far more men than women, and men are far more likely than women to browse profiles and initiate contact. Yes, it is still a woman's world...for the time being. It is "traditional" for men to initiate contact. It has always been and will always be. Some things remain constant. That is why your profile and image are so crucial.

Remember that being confident and interesting does not imply being cocky or self-centered. It's critical that your profile shows that you have friends you care about and that you are passionate about a variety of things...not just sports. Another thing about that all-important profile...please don't begin it with, "I'm the guy you're looking for."

With that line, you've just shot yourself in the foot. "I could be the man of your dreams," is another phrase you should never use. The lady HOPES you are, but she will decide... Don't insult her intelligence by doing so. Remember...if you exude confidence and interest, you will find the lady you've been looking for...or she will find you.

Wouldn't it be nice if the ladies contacted you rather than you having to do everything? That will happen if you write a great profile that stands out from the crowd.

Nice Guys Do It as Well!

 Nice Guys Do It as Well!

When online dating sites first became popular, they were a haven for perverts, sexual predators, nerds, and weirdos of all stripes. Online dating has become the primary tool used by singles to build an interesting social life. All you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started.

Of course, I'm referring to online dating. When online dating sites first became popular, they were a haven for perverts, sexual predators, nerds, and weirdos of all stripes.

That is simply not the case anymore. The stigma associated with online dating has vanished. Online dating has become not only acceptable, but also expected. Online dating has become the primary tool used by singles of all ages to build an interesting and rewarding social life.

Let's face it, we're all busy. We just simply do not have the time, the energy, or the financial where-with-all to date several nights each week while we look for the "one". You can sort through hundreds of profiles in a month for less than the cost of one evening out, saving both time and money. We use the internet to save time and money on a variety of tasks such as investing, shopping, medical information, and communication.

Why not put such a useful tool to use in our social and personal lives as well? You might meet the love of your life. At the very least, you will meet some interesting people with whom you may form long-lasting friendships. It's simple to get started. All you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started. You must look for online dating services that meet your specific requirements. They are numerous and diverse.

Join one or two of them. Then you'll need to create an excellent profile, upload a recent photo of yourself, and begin making and responding to contacts. That's all there is to it... That, and perseverance.

Don't put off starting your new and exciting social life any longer. Miss or Ms. "Right" could be just a few mouse clicks away.

Sincerity Is Truly The Best Policy

 Sincerity Is Truly The Best Policy

In order to find the right girl for you, you must be completely honest with yourself. Don't claim to be 6'1 with a six-pack if you aren't. If you're approaching 50, don't pretend to be 30. Remember, the goal is to find a girl who will like you just the way you are.

When you join an online dating service, you're looking for a girl you can like...even fall in love with. That girl is looking for a man she can like, if not love. What you're not looking for is a girl who wants to be your best friend or your idea of what the ideal guy looks, talks, and thinks like. So, in order to find the right girl for you...and she IS out there...you must be completely honest with yourself about yourself when creating your online profile, dating, and beyond.

The best way to start writing your profile is to thoroughly examine your previous relationships (s). What was correct? What had gone wrong? What made you fall in love with the previous girl? Which ones didn't? Don't assume that because you disliked your previous girl's total self-involvement and inability to see anything else, you'll be able to overlook it this time. You will not.

Don't claim to be 6'1" with a six-pack to be proud of if you aren't. Don't pretend to be a lawyer with a six-figure salary if you're a bartender. If you're approaching 50, don't pretend to be 30.

Remember, the goal is to find a girl who will like you just the way you are. If you lied in your profile, the first face-to-face meeting will dispel any doubts she has that you are a liar...and probably a cheat as well.

Finally, once you've found a girl you think could be the one for you, cancel your membership in the online dating service. After all, you and she are both aware that online dating services are designed for those who are looking rather than those who have found or been found.

First, Ask The Right Questions

 First, ask the right questions.

You need to learn more about who this strange woman is, not just who she wants you to believe she is. You must understand what mistakes to avoid and how to avoid them. Ask her if she has had any bad online dating experiences and will help you avoid making the same mistakes.

You've signed up for a few dating sites and created a killer profile. You've uploaded a good photo and are about to chat with a contact. What happens next? How do you tell the difference between those who have real potential and those who don't? You need to learn more about who this strange woman is, not just who she wants you to believe she is. 

It would be nice if women wore labels like "Gold Digger" or "Daddy's girl," but they don't, so you have to figure it out on your own, and you can't just ask direct questions. You must understand what mistakes to avoid and how to avoid them.

You must understand what mistakes to avoid and how to impress this lady if you decide to do so.

After you've gotten past the small talk, ask her, "What are the most common mistakes guys make when dating online?" Pay close attention to her responses. She'll tell you a lot about herself and her thoughts on men in general.

"What do you really think about online dating?" you should ask her next. Now she will tell you if she has had any bad online dating experiences and will help you avoid making the same mistakes.

Now for the big one... "What caused the breakup in your previous relationship?" If she blames the guy entirely, you should probably move on to the next candidate. If she accepts sole responsibility, you should probably do the same. You've gotten the right answer if she says the breakup was mutual or that the relationship wasn't right for either of them. Proceed with caution at all times.

When you meet the lady for the first time, asking the right questions will give you insight and boost your confidence.

A Man`s Secrets to Successful Online Dating

 A Man`s Secrets to Successful Online Dating

People have embraced online dating like they've been playing in the water. Women are generally afraid to meet men they chat with online. All they've heard is horrible things that can happen...and I have to say they have the right to be very cautious. This is not only smart, it is essential. So what should a nice guy do? You are not a pervert, a sex offender, or a weirdo. You're just a nice guy looking for "that" girl for you.

you have to be patient. Do not ask for personal information such as your real name or where you live. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking to you online. Don't try to pressure her to meet in person. She will think you are hopeless or perverted. Patience. Patience. Patience. Be absolutely honest about your appearance and your work. Good relationships have never been built on lies and deception. Either way, she'll discover her truth anyway, and you're back to square one.

Pictures really speak more than a thousand words. She posts lots of pictures of herself doing her daily activities and takes pictures of her full body as well as her face. If you were dating a girl in real life, she would only look at your head.

Once you've started discussing her first meeting, meet in a very public place during the day and suggest she bring her friend along. After all, there is nothing to hide. You told her about you honestly and she saw a lot of your pictures. The only thing left is that she feels safe seeing you.

Popular Online Dating Activities For Men

 Popular Online Dating Activities For Men

Cheer up, gentlemen. Online dating can open up new possibilities with a little help from real dating tips. Spice up your matchmaking with some of these ideas.

Looks Count

Please comment on her attractiveness. Yes, a woman wants to know she's pretty, even when she's online. So in your communications, ask questions that help you. And say how attractive it must look.

Kindness is important

Point out the good things and lemonades of life - good things others have mentioned, good deeds they have done, good things in the recent news, etc. Be optimistic and forget those lemons in life Please, even in emails, you can shout using only uppercase letters. Show good manners and kindness. Avoid abusive, unkind remarks and prejudices in your communications. And "to others...".

So add a few real-world tips to your online dating equation that will help (most of them anyway).And get on the positive side of romance and enjoy more lemonade!